The problem I was facing was a recurring one. I had the best intentions set for my goals but was unable to launch. The negative narrative surrounding why I was unable to meet my targets were easier to keep me still-and still I had the desire to get going. The fear of failure was number one on the list.
The biggest result would definitely be that I was now present and able to recognize the effort to pursue my goals was more important than the ability to achieve them all at once. I became comfortable with putting together a framework that fit into whatever purpose/task I had to achieve. Specifically, the first thing was learning to say “No”! Surprisingly that was the only way to turn on the gears - get started and not reside in victim mode; unrestricted by guilt or feeling selfish.
I was reluctant to work with a coach because honestly, being open about my insecurities made me feel inadequate. It didn't matter if I had heard the voices in my head cheering me along but having to express it out loud to someone else was terrifying and paradoxically extremely liberating.
It was important for me to feel comfortable to share very personal aspects of my life with someone. She was able to help me unknot situations in a very honest and relatable, matter of fact way.
I think most moms feel what I've felt but are scared to talk about it. The more I became comfortable with talking to people about my experience, was the more it revealed that a lot of people had a hard time navigating through similar issues. Also, they were receptive to finding solutions. They were craving for change, but just like me they felt stuck.
I've been referred to relationship counseling in the past where it looked more like working on things with another person; that be a relative or a partner. Someone else was always involved in the dynamic. The difference with this was that I was intentionally working on a better relationship with myself which manifested better relationships with others.
In recommending Angela to anyone - I would say that she is kind and sincere. I would tell them that they would have so much to gain by becoming closer to their center of self and that they would become emboldened to become a better version of who they truly are. She teaches with a practical approach and a realistic application. She created an individualized step by step plan that generated actionable targets and real results.
I think it was her honest way of delivering the information without judgement. Also, she coached in a way that elevates your mindset which created a forward chain of positive impact throughout my day to day life.
Three benefits I experienced were:
That my life was mine to live which meant holding myself accountable for my experiences.
Giving myself permission to celebrate the small wins. Every step no matter how small felt like progress and that was BIG!
That failure and fear are ideas that can feel as real as the water on your skin but by looking at them through the lens of lessons learnt allows for growth and empowerment. And the bonus - the ability to laugh at myself and to have compassion for the parts of me that are unresolved and undiscovered.
Life was like walking on a treadmill. At times, I would accelerate and slow down but felt as though I was not moving nor growing. Now I have a map to enhance my life experiences and a blueprint for the journey ahead.
I was happy to feel a sense of ease. Her sense of humor and passion for what she was able to do made the breakthrough a fantastic experience which I will always remember and take with me on the road I'm about to embark on.
